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A few years ago I had a friend who became increasingly flaky. She was (or so I thought) part of my close-knit-friends-forever circle. Eventually, said circle of friends directly called her out on her behaviour one day, and politely asked her what was up. The response we got was surprisingly blunt. She told us that … Continue reading Surviving a friendship breakup (and why you should actually take it in stride).
About 15 years ago I lost a significant amount of weight. Nothing worth writing a motivational book about, or anything, but it was still the the head-turning, life-altering, question-provoking kind of weight loss. Most people didn't realize that I wasn't particularly kind to myself throughout my weight-loss journey. It wasn't fun. Actually, it was a … Continue reading Read this before complimenting someone on their weight loss…
For the longest time I had the intention of writing a post about how I had (royally) messed up my finances. I had a long draft brainstormed discussing the how, the why, and the long and painful process of finally accepting how bad things had become, just before I hit rock bottom. It was a … Continue reading The emotional effects of debt recovery
I have nothing against coping statements. Even when they are clichés, over-used, or factually inaccurate. If it helps get you through something toughs, I’m all for it. I have several of my own that have become my mantras. What I do take issue with, is when a statement become twisted, and actually ends up making … Continue reading Two coping statements that are often misused
When I met a new colleague at work the other day, he asked me the two questions I dread the most: if I was married, and if I had kids. As a woman in her early 30s, when I answer “no” to both of those questions, I’m usually met with a look of confusion, disappointment, … Continue reading If it’s alright with you, I’d rather not procreate…
I’ve done therapy off and on for a few years now, hoping to self-improve and learn some better coping mechanisms. Sometimes, I honestly didn’t feel like I was getting much bang for my buck in my steeply-priced sessions. But over the years I’ve still accumulated a few gems of wisdom, that I feel the need … Continue reading Accepting That You Have To Take Care of Yourself Sometimes (Because Other People Might Let You Down…)
Before anyone gears up to tear me a new one, you should understand that when I refer to a “window”, I am in no way referring to a person’s age. I don’t care if you get married at 25 or 65 (or maybe marriage isn’t your thing – that’s cool too!). But I’m starting to … Continue reading Why I think there might be a window for marriage, and why I think I’ve possibly missed mine.
I should try and avoid using words like “mistakes” or “regret”. I mean really, I don’t have a crystal ball, so who am I to say how things would have turned out, had I made different choices or acted differently in life. If the decisions I made, mistake or otherwise, got me to where I … Continue reading Mistakes I made in my 20s…
If you saw me walking down the street you wouldn’t think that I am a vain person. You’d probably actually suggest that I put a little more effort into my appearance. I go out in public without makeup, I frequently get comments on my messy hair, and my friends once staged a borderline intervention to … Continue reading I just realized that I am modestly vain…
I was on the cusp of my 30th birthday when I lost my dad. Amidst all the chaos of grief, and some of the typical challenges people experience, I found that my age made me feel almost uncertain of how I was “supposed” to behave (I’ve unfortunately always cared way too much about what other … Continue reading It’s been years since my dad died…and I still wish I had handled it differently.
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