I have nothing against coping statements. Even when they are clichés, over-used, or factually inaccurate. If it helps get you through something toughs, I’m all for it. I have several of my own that have become my mantras. What I do take issue with, is when a statement become twisted, and actually ends up making … Continue reading Two coping statements that are often misused
1) “You worry too much!”. I’m hoping that there are at least some of you out there who feel like it’s common sense that this isn’t something helpful to say. But I’m surprised by how often I hear it. Even from people who know me well and should know better by this point. That sentence … Continue reading Three of the worst things you can say to someone who is anxious
I think I could easily list a hundred reasons why I decided to delete my account. But for simplicity’s sake, I’ll give you my top 5 reasons why I had to cut the cord with Facebook, and why, after 5 years, I’ve never looked back. 5) The incredibly fake identities people created for themselves. I’m … Continue reading Ditching Facebook (Top 5 Reasons Why)
The other day a colleague of mine confessed that she was against gay marriage. I was kind of stunned. Which very likely makes me naïve. I had assumed that in this day and age we were all pretty tolerant, and had moved on to bigger (actual) problems. I get that my 90-year-old grandpa might still … Continue reading The fine line between judging, and having an opinion
When I met a new colleague at work the other day, he asked me the two questions I dread the most: if I was married, and if I had kids. As a woman in her early 30s, when I answer “no” to both of those questions, I’m usually met with a look of confusion, disappointment, … Continue reading If it’s alright with you, I’d rather not procreate…
I’ve done therapy off and on for a few years now, hoping to self-improve and learn some better coping mechanisms. Sometimes, I honestly didn’t feel like I was getting much bang for my buck in my steeply-priced sessions. But over the years I’ve still accumulated a few gems of wisdom, that I feel the need … Continue reading Accepting That You Have To Take Care of Yourself Sometimes (Because Other People Might Let You Down…)
Before anyone gears up to tear me a new one, you should understand that when I refer to a “window”, I am in no way referring to a person’s age. I don’t care if you get married at 25 or 65 (or maybe marriage isn’t your thing – that’s cool too!). But I’m starting to … Continue reading Why I think there might be a window for marriage, and why I think I’ve possibly missed mine.
I should try and avoid using words like “mistakes” or “regret”. I mean really, I don’t have a crystal ball, so who am I to say how things would have turned out, had I made different choices or acted differently in life. If the decisions I made, mistake or otherwise, got me to where I … Continue reading Mistakes I made in my 20s…
If you saw me walking down the street you wouldn’t think that I am a vain person. You’d probably actually suggest that I put a little more effort into my appearance. I go out in public without makeup, I frequently get comments on my messy hair, and my friends once staged a borderline intervention to … Continue reading I just realized that I am modestly vain…
Well…that’s a lie. I am a bit ashamed. But the point is that I am really trying not to be. And here’s why. I think the image of me eating lunch alone in my car is somehow reminiscent of the stereotypical loner teenager who has no one to sit with in the cafeteria. But believe … Continue reading Why I eat lunch in my car – and why I am not ashamed!